– This man’s mother told her soon to be daughter-in-law that she should dye her naturally red hair for the wedding so that they don’t have
the same color hair. – I’m all set. – How much leeway should
you give your in-law? – Not that much, sorry. – You don’t wanna be
their puppet for sure. – I have a whole different take on this. I agree that the mother-in-law
should not be doing that but here’s the issue I have. Why is she then posting
this on social media? Because she then immediately puts her husband to be in a no win situation. – Bad. – Well there is a win. – No listen, because he is then he is forced to choose
to either tell his mom you can’t do that or tell his wife to be- – Wait a minute, hold on. –
But let’s preach about that. – She should have a
conversation with him first. – I think it’s actually
an easy conversation. – This is easy. Break it down.
– Go ahead. – The bible says this is
– I give it to him. why a man will leave his
Leave and cleave. father and mother and cleave
to his wife. – That’s right. – So the decision is, my wife
(audience cheering) to be, my wife to-be. It’s
her decision if she gon’ color her hair or not. And mom, I love you. But this is not your marriage, and we gotta create
boundaries. – And that’s his conversation to have with the
– Because mother.
– That’s right. That’s right. – I mean it puts him on the
carpet, but that’s exactly right. I’m glad you backed
it up with the bible. But from, I’m not gonna argue.
(all laugh) – You had to tell him. – You have a point. – I’m at a place in my life
where my kids are marriage age. So I have to make the decision
what kind of in-law am I gonna be. I raise my
children as best I could, to know their own truth
and find their stuff. My kids have respect for
it. If they’re in love, they obviously are in love with
somebody that’s worth while. It’s not my choice who they
date, if he does her wrong, I’mma kill em. (all laughs) – Ok cool. – I need to
hear that. – That is great. – Okay I wanna hear what the
ladies say on this because the wedding day is theirs. – Right. Right.
– Yes. – So ladies where are you at on this? – So here’s the thing, when
I first heard this story I thought that was out of
line for the mom to say that. That told me several things
about the relationship. That obviously the husband
– Yes. doesn’t have enough
boundaries set because the mother should never even
said it in the first place. – Ask how can, since you know
your mom better than anyone, how should I approach
her. Because it’s my day. – You have that conversation
– It’s a slippery slope. with her, and you don’t
say it the right way? First of all, she’s not gonna
receive it from you anyway. She’s jealous. She’s jealous
– That’s right. cause she don’t like your
hair and she think you cute. And I’m the momma and I’m
the. That’s all she’s doing. That’s all she’s doing. –
Her son is marrying someone on straight talk so she
gon’ get it straight. Hello. (audience laughs) – But you
need your man to be able to step up to his mother in a respectful way and say this is my wife and
– Exactly. Respectfully. that made her feel uncomfortable
and we can’t do this. This doesn’t work for us.
– Right, right, right. – Long before it gets posted.
– Yes. – Look, marriage the thing
that’s made this one successful for me. This is number 3. (all
laughs) – Third times a charm – Yeah, I’m good at this now.
I’ve done done a lotta wrong stuff. What has made this
marriage successful from day one, is we made a commitment to
form a two-handed circle. No one is in that circle but
me and Margie. – All right. – The kids ain’t in it.
The two handed circle in a marriage is the best approach.
When the in-laws are in it, it’s gon get messed up. This
woman had no right to go to this young lady and
tell her dye her hair on her wedding day. Are you
crazy? – Yes. – Yeah. – Now but Steve, I’m not gonna
– You know, defend her. Right? I’m
not gonna defend her. But I think underneath
it, it is hard when you’re a parent trying to let go of your child. – Yeah. – Sure. – And
that’s what’s happening. – That’s all that. – Hey folks
this has been a great one. This was a really good time.
Thank you all for being here. Keep it down everybody
we’ll be right back. (upbeat music)