Shadow Work and the Law of Attraction (my experience)

Shadow Work and the Law of Attraction (my experience)

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this video I’m gonna show you shadow
work and the law of attraction I’m gonna show you how you may be attracting
things depending upon your shadow I’m gonna show you how to bring these things
into the light and how this changes everything welcome back to another video
my name is at Odom again and I hope people expand their consciousness now in
this video I’m gonna be sharing with you that of shadow work I understand a
little bit more about what this concept is that Aaron speaks of in third person
and why shadow work is the key to you really not attracting things that you
really don’t prefer to experience a lot of it actually has to do with the
identity and this is something I’ve realized more and more over the last two
or three years I’ve been making YouTube videos as as time goes on I realize how
important the shadow self is and your self image there’s a little bit about
your shadow self and the self image now here’s what I’ve become to realize okay
is that there’s different levels of my own personality at different levels of
my own shadow that have been bringing things to my awareness and let me share
with you a little bit about what that is now for those of you that don’t know
what a shadow is the shadow is the part of us that’s unconscious the part of us
that we’re not aware of and many times the shadow has kind of a negative
connotation it’s the unconscious part of us that is many times projected out a
lot of times people will actually perceive in other people parts of their
own shadow for example I get pretty irritated when somebody says they’re
gonna be here on a certain time if I for example my lawn right now is pretty long
and I pay a person to come here once a week to trim the grass and I’m wondering
to myself well I’ve been paying weekly but yet last week he didn’t come and
maybe he didn’t come a couple weeks ago and why am i paying if it’s not being
done on time now another aspect of it is he says he’s gonna come every Wednesday
today is Wednesday and anytime there’s these things in my life where people say
they’re gonna come on a certain time but then they don’t
it irritates me and this even has to there’s another aspect of this as well
there’s a guy that comes over like a handyman he’s actually a really cool guy
I really like him but he says oh I’m gonna be over at your house at one
o’clock he will not show up till 3:30 or 4 and it’s always like that with him and
so maybe that’s a story I tell myself I don’t know but he anytime I have to be
very firm with him I said you need ok if you’re gonna be here at 1:00 to be here
at 1:00 because I’m gonna be going somewhere and I can leave him at my
house to do work but I need to check show them what it needs to be done you
know whether it’s hanging up something or whatever it is but that really gets
under my skin for some reason now that’s part of my own shadow because I myself
sometimes don’t show up on time I know sometimes I’ll go work out with Victor
we’ll say okay let’s show up at 12 o’clock I’ll roll in at 12:15 12:30 so I
had that’s part of my own shadow I’m aware of that
now when you become aware of this is when you bring the shadow into the light
bring the shadow into the light now there are aspects of our personality and
I think this video is going to be very empowering video video for you because
you’re gonna give yourself more permission to be yourself by the end of
this video now understand with the law of attraction we attract things into our
life depending on our vibration some of our vibration may be totally unconscious
we not we might not be aware of it so I’m attracting situations into my life
like being people being late coming to me I might have a story about that I
tell myself that people never show up on time or a lot of times don’t but then
today I have a haircut for example my hair’s getting a little bit long and
when I go to get my haircut sometimes when I show up I’m like five ten minutes
late and I and I so beat myself up for it because I so especially because I’d
become more busy as time goes on I’m pretty busy now that I’m doing like I’ve
been doing daily videos I mean you know I’ve got a lot going on so my time is
very valuable so if I do that to someone else I feel really bad I feel really
guilty about it now but like I said what I perceive in other people I also
dislike because it’s also a part of myself so in a way it’s like I’m walking
around with this charge inside my energy field that says this rule is is people
better not be late people better not be late
people better not be late and then when people are late I get there’s this
charge and I’m like oh why are people late but then I also have part of my own
personality is sometimes I’m not completely on time I notice as well it
has to do the priority as well if it’s something I really want to go to then I
will be on time but I like one of the gym but I don’t know it’s one of those
things now let me share with you a different aspect of this as well this is
what I’ve realized this is what I’m gonna encourage you to look at with your
shadow what is your relationship with your parents I’m gonna wait I’m just
kidding what is your relationship with your parents now the reason that I asked
this is our relationship with our parents or the people that raised us
those are the first relationships that we ever had in our life those are the
way that relationships that we had with them in a way very much influenced a way
that we relate to self the way that we relate to ourselves
and the way that we relate to other people now let me share with you an
aspect of my own shadow that I’ve become aware of over the last honestly like
four or five days I’ve really become aware of this and I’m really being
proactive at bringing this shadow into the light so many of you know my story I
know I say my story you know most a whole bunch of videos because because
I’m trying to show people a lot of times that you know you can go through these
things you come out on top come out more powerful you know what I mean
now just part of my story growing up between the age of 7 to 15 years old I
had an abusive stepmama in my life she was very controlling she’s very
manipulative and my dad’s a fire investigator he wasn’t home very often
so me and my brother had to deal with her and we weren’t allowed to have
friends we weren’t allowed to watch TV we weren’t allowed to go to school
activities we had to earn it she was physically and mentally abusive so she
was a very dominant female and we weren’t even really allowed to have a
relationship with our real mom who was amazing who now I have of course have a
relationship with and this is what I’ve realized recently I’ve been paying
attention to my own energy and realizing that part of my personality
is I am what is called a fixer I try to fix people I try to fix even people my
life that come to me I want to help everyone all have people in my family
whom I love very much who come to me for help who come to me and express certain
things to me and I want nothing more than to help them to fix them and to
them make them better whether that’s giving them money to help
them get back on their feet whether that’s helping them emotionally
in helping them move through things I realize that this this personality trait
of being a fixer comes a little bit for my dad my dad is a similar way my dad is
the nicest guy in the world he will do anything for his kids and he has in many
situations however a lot of times he doesn’t take care of himself when I say
that what I mean is nobody thinks he wants to do he will put out everything
on the back burner for anyone else great guy but sometimes the answer is for him
to have more of a firm mentality have boundaries but in a way he had kind of
he let the x-step mom run the show back in the day he didn’t have as much
boundaries he didn’t have the boundary to say these are my kids do not treat
him like that he didn’t have that boundary or to have the boundary to say
this is what I want it was in a way just let her run the show now me growing up I
noticed this in him and I had the except mom in my life for 7 to 15 years old so
I developed a personality trait of becoming a people pleaser I want other
people to be happy I that is also part of the fixing mentality my dad has that
plus in a way I have that I want to fix people when a lot of times the answer is
to not fix people to let people go through their own stuff and to be there
as maybe an emotional support system but not to just give it’s like you can teach
someone to fish but if you just give someone fish they’re just gonna keep
coming back to you to more fish and then you got to consistently give your fish
that you Nord normally used to eat if you eat fish you get the you get the
analogy so for this what I’ve been realizing
recently is my personality there are times when I emphasize certain aspect of
my personality but recently I’ve been realizing that I’ve had more of this
people pleaser mentality wanting to make everyone happy wanting to make sure
everyone’s okay wanting to fix other people and that’s been manifesting in my
life in many ways one of those is having a lack of boundaries having a like being
afraid to say no to people I’ve always been kind of afraid to really say what
like here’s there’s a paradox within here I’m a very blunt person I’m a very
sarcastic person I like to have fun I like to joke around so a lot of times
when it comes to these things if there’s something on my mind I just say it and
even if it’s a little bit harsh I say it with good energy so normally people
don’t mind but in general even just from first off meeting someone I if somebody
said something that I don’t like there are times that I feel afraid to say what
I really think because I just met this person all of this stuff but that comes
from a people-pleaser mentality it comes from trying to make other people happy
and being afraid to really express myself because if I would have expressed
myself back in the day when my except woman is in my life I would have got
pain I would have gotten trouble I would have got taught or a told that I should
have talked back I would have got told that that my opinion didn’t matter and I
would have got told to go outside and do yard work that’s what would have
happened back in the day those same unconscious shadow aspects of me are
still in my life today in some ways and some of this includes what I’m sharing
with you right now you may notice that this video has a more direct and
masculine feel than some of the more recent videos that I’ve done well what
I’ve realized is I’m bringing this shadow back into an into my awareness
into the light and I’m transforming it because a lot of those aspects as well
are more feminine aspects when you’re trying to to please other people it’s
more being it’s being much more soft and I’m a masculine person so I noticed
that sometimes what happens is I will we both we all have masculine and feminine
within us every single one of us now the thing with spirituality did I notice a
lot it’s kind of a side tangent but thing I noticed a lot in spirituality as
many people become very very spiritual they’ll start meditating and sometimes
what happens is they go so far on the other side of the spectrum that they
become very soft they become very like a little bit more Airy
I just want to meditate all day just send love to the planet which is a very
good energy it’s amazing but this is about having a balance not an equal
balance sometimes the polarity is good but it’s about being authentic that’s it
it’s about being authentic my best videos in my opinion are the ones where
I have a lot of passion a lot of energy I’m just myself I don’t care what people
think that’s when the energy is the best that’s when you could probably feel my
energy is the best or at least you feel the most energy now there are times it
goes up to a different way maybe I’ll just be more more flowy you know we all
have masculine and feminine aspects within us but I find that I am most
comfortable when I have the kind of energy that I have in this video right
now which is more based on a predominant masculine energy which is more direct
doesn’t have to mean masculine is male and feminine is female masculine is
direct masculine is decisive masculine just doesn’t care what people think
feminine is more open-hearted it’s more flowy it’s more empathic they’re both
just as not ones worse than the other but what I realized in myself is when I
was growing up I was observing my dad and I had a very masculine female in my
life who was my ex stepmom who was in a way like an Army Surgeon
Sergent no army sergeant sergeant I think that’s the word very strict very
regimented very angry all the time so so I would because I resented my ex
stepmom for many years I would do my best to be the opposite of that I don’t
ever want to be that manipulative and mean to people and I just wanna I’m see
invalidation from people oh if I just do enough I’ve always had that mentality as
well when I have you know like like friends I do a lot to add value to them
as if I’m not good enough already I’ll either give them things and I realize
this in relationship as well buying someone a whole bunch of gifts and then
realizing that that doesn’t really mean anything other than the meaning I put in
it yes it can be a nice gesture but not everyone’s love languages gifts but it’s
also emphasizing that I’m not already whole and complete not that I’m not
going to not give gifts in a relationship but do you see what I mean
the people pleaser mentality is an aspect of my shadow that I wasn’t really
aware of and because I was afraid to speak my truth Express afraid to say
what I would I really think in many situations I am then not being in
integrity to who I really am and to what I really feel like saying so those
shadow aspects is me being a little bit more passive me having a more feminine
edge in many situations maybe not just direct focus person of course there’s a
balance of this I love the business aspect of what I do I love it I love
doing events I love doing so many different aspects of this I love it but
it’s a very masculine thing and there are times that I want a more feminine
like at the end of a long work day the last thing I want to go do is something
else that’s very logical and in masculine maybe I just want to relax but
don’t want to get a massage maybe I want to just just chill and not have a direct
focus on intention behind what I’m doing but what I’m realizing about myself is
I’m becoming more aware I’m gonna share with you the answer to this process here
in a minute I’m becoming more aware of these aspects
bringing them into the light and then they don’t have as much I’m integrating
it I’m not resisting it it’s not like the answer to this is I go around just
tell it everyone you are this way you are this way pointing my fingers it’s
more so I integrate and I realize what’s authentic
for me and I express myself when I want to express myself I’m more detached from
outcome I’m more in my own frame what I’ve realized over this last couple
months is sometimes I get out of my own frame of reality I started hearing to
everyone else’s intentions and I become more like a leaf in the wind more than
having my direction the most successful I’ve been in my life
the most happy I’ve been in my life the most myself I’ve been in my life is when
I am in a certain direction and I am including my masculine frame now this is
the key to this process we all have different aspects of our personality
what I would encourage you to do is to bring some of these into the light and
then to start giving yourself more permission to be you the real you not
the mask you not them asked you the mask you is the one of the kind of person you
think you should be the kind of person that you become maybe because of your
relationship with your parents maybe some of those are positive things but be
aware of the personality of traits of your mom the personality traits of your
dad their interaction with each other be aware how that shaped the way you see
relationships the way that you see yourself and by being aware of that you
can then see did I take on certain traits maybe Europe you know we’re in
2019 now so when we talk about feminine masculine traits it could be a touchy
subject for many people we all have masculine and feminine energy within us
the key is being aware of which is your dominant frame which are you more
polarized to and become aware if you’re wearing any masks depending on your
childhood experiences whether you became a people pleaser and you started to take
on these more feminine roles as a guy because you’re trying to make everyone
else happy that’s not even really who you are you are a being as I’m not
afraid to put out your your thoughts express yourself but you’ve learned
growing up that it’s fearful to do so so you created this this mask that buffered
and has allowed you to then be a certain way maybe on the feminine side maybe on
the feminine side when you were growing up you were learning that you had to
control situations you had to take on a more
masculine role maybe instead you can learn how to balance that out into how
to become more free more flowing how to integrate more of that into your psyche
so there’s this polarization with the shadow work that I really wanted to
express in this video because a lot of those masks come from the way that we
think we should be the way that we were given with pain and pleasure growing up
but what you can realize now is you can just be yourself whatever that means
but the real you not the mask you now to you that you think you have to be if it
feels good to people please then cool me I realize that that’s a mask and that’s
something that’s not really taking out everyone else’s problems and trying to
figure it out myself isn’t really my passion and now that I’m more aware of
it the energy has shifted within me now the energies flowed much easier the
videos I’m doing are much more in alignment with the way I prefer to do
videos so I feel more in alignment than ever and I could just give myself
permission to be myself there’s something I want to say I say it there’s
something I want to do I do it I’m in my own lane and that crate contains a
certain a certain level of gravity plus I now have better boundaries and I don’t
feel guilty I used to feel so guilty about boundaries but oh this is what I
want to do well what do you think about that is that okay is that okay you I
know No now it’s just this is what this is
what I’m doing I have self compassion doesn’t mean that you know I’m shutting
off this feminine side of myself but for now what I’m focused on is really
integrating with shadow work it’s about integrating these unconscious parts of
myself so that I can start to attract things into my life that are more in
alignment with the way that I prefer to be so the law of attraction and shadow
work we always attract to us a reflection of our vibration part of our
vibration may be unconscious the keys becoming aware of these masks these
stories we tell ourselves about who we are and as we become aware of these
unconscious stories we then are able to bring the shadow into the light we’re
then able to integrate these different darker sides of our personality so that
we could be more at our core so by realizing this
being aware of it that’s where the power is now as I explained this story right
now what you’ll notice is that a lot of this has to do with patterns of the past
that haven’t been completed there is a completing the past meditation that if
you listen to for 21 days I think it will transform your life
read the comments in this video to see what I mean and see what is possible
it’s gonna be right in the top of the scription box below let’s do it for 21
days and watch what happens when you complete the past you no longer repeat
it and most of the negative patterns in our life come from feeling unworthy so
this meditation will help you to complete that past also if you haven’t
already the only way I don’t know why YouTube does this but it does the only
way to see the daily videos on YouTube is to hit the notification Bell I have a
lot more good stuff coming I’m excited to share it with you if you haven’t at
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haven’t already and as always peace much love

100 thoughts on “Shadow Work and the Law of Attraction (my experience)

  • Aaron Doughty Post author

    hiii everyone! here is the meditation I mentioned in the video ! let me know what you think πŸ™‚

  • Avatar Ang Post author

    You're great at articulating all of these spiritual concepts so that they make sense to 'normal' people πŸ™‚

  • War Hut Post author

    Could you talk about bilocation
    Materialization of objects
    Other supernormal abilities
    In another someday
    If you can

  • Jason Shoraka Post author

    My dad is the same way! He is the nicest guy in the world loving big giving everything up to my mom and letting my mom lead the way, he tries to please her as often and as much as he can while putting his own needs and wants aside, ! The first time I first viewed your videos months and months ago I knew you and I had at least one or more things in common, but I did not know what it was,! Today I learned from this video that one thing we have in common is our dads are the same way in some respects, I don't think it makes them bad or good they just don't set boundaries, I really enjoy watching your videos, you are awesome! Keep up the awesome videos in the awesome good work, God bless you!

  • I wickerman Post author

    good work

  • J-vibes subliminal Post author

    Woow i really manifested this video

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  • Verum Dicere Post author

    This is the BEST Enlightening knowledge to receive at 6 in the morning! πŸ’š I was that 'fixer' person. People take advantage of a kind, generous, beautiful soul. I appreciate your advice. Thank you.

  • Billy Evans Post author

    I am always, ALWAYS early at least 20 minutes and get annoyed when people are no on time.

  • Luma lolo Post author

    You're such an angel..thank you for this video..much love and respect to you dear Aaron ❀❀

  • pk Osb Post author

    Well, if you're a male, you SHOULD be more masculine. If you're a female, you SHOULD be more feminine. So what you're saying is true but with all this gender confusion, it's making things worse. No it's NOT normal for anyone to want to change their gender. Mainstream wants you to believe it's normal. It's not! It's a mental illness. This video wasn't about that but it's worth mentioning. Thank you

  • Greg Khar Post author

    Can u tell me how to move to universe where "woke" people does not exist? For real i'm tired if this shit

  • Ivy Moller Post author

    Great video, can definitely see the difference in between the feminine and masculine sides lol well said. πŸ™β€οΈ

  • YOUniversal Awakening Post author

    So glad to see this video Aaron! I too went through the same exact thing growing up. The people in my life that knew it are amazed I came out on top like I did. Thank you for all that you do!! I hope you know it's appreciated!!

  • julia k Post author

    Thank you πŸŒΌπŸŒΌπŸŒΌπŸ™‚πŸ™

  • Glossy Drop Post author

    Thank you so much for this video!!❀

  • shannon jennings Post author

    Great video Aaron!! This one really hit home with me and they keep getting better and better! You have no idea how much you help me. Keep up the good work, much love!!!

  • Deborah Friedrich Post author

    Ha ha your experiences are not shadows only. It's just reality because you may be pre-incurring that particular experience. Love your vids. I get the whole thing for people that are late. But I have only been late .001% of times and my sister is late ALL the time so I factor that in. It's because you are putting out there 'I hope he is not late'. Don't think that. Or say you can't be late or I can't pay you for the job. Don't people please ALL the time. I decided to be late for my sister who was always late. And then she became more on time. Shift the reality instead of fighting it. Set boundaries before hand. I was a people pleaser for years. But when you set boundaries you might be surprised how accommodating people will be. They are not manifesting YOUR shadows only they are THEIR shadows imprinted onto you. Let it go.

  • Al Al Post author

    I LIKE THIS ONE Aaron, I like MOST of your vids, and all the rest of the big heads in the youtube self help community. YET I KNOW A LOT MORE ABOUT THE INS AND OUTS of psychology than most people, especially the categories of co-dependency and narcissism so I had extra interest in the videos material than others may…well versed in law of attraction and NLP too. ALSO Aaron, teaching someone to fish is even more brutal to their health (humans have a design and therefore a diet) and the ecosystem (meat industry takes and pollutes huge amounts of water compared to vegetation) than just giving them a fish. So in essence YOU who loves to be all loving vibes and all that to the whole planet and the pleadeans or some such (yes I am just going to leave that alone EVEN if I had a 100ft pole) NEED to remember some of the facts shared about that old saying/adage.

  • Adriel AvilΓ©s Post author

    Hey Aaron! What's that you have on your wrist?

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  • ida loup Post author

    I'm pleasantly surprised by your video and moved.
    Yes, the Unconscious is a kind of basement of our psychic life where we put everything that hurts our consciousness.
    Freud's psychoanalytic theory has always showed results. He was the first to talk about emotional traumas, mental struggles and obscured memories of the mind.
    It's great to know a little more about your personal experience, your childhood. It's great to know a little more about what you seem to be through what you authentically reverberate.
    I don't know you of course but that's how I feel it.
    And I liked to hear you saying that It's important to set boundaries with some people especially when they feed on your energy. They are sometimes vampires of energy.
    That's how I end my comment and I hope ( Hope is bullshit ) that you read ALL those you receive.
    Greetings from Paris

  • Natalie Hearn Post author

    That's BS I hate when people say that what you see in others you see in yourself, I hate serial killers but I'm not one myself

  • TheHypnoQueen Post author

    Once a week!?!????!??!?!

  • chichi daniels Post author

    your name is what? did I just quantum jump your name?

  • Purvang Dutt Post author

    Aaron, you were right. Towards the end i do feel and start to see the masks. Thank you so much Aaron. You are the most spiritually knowlegable person I've seen till now and yeah, Namaste because I am an Indian tooπŸ˜„

  • Laila Ali Post author

    your videos are not just to raise my vibrations it's really stopping painful patterns and helps me to understand myself batter … from all my heart thank you β€β€πŸ™πŸ»

  • chichi daniels Post author

    kind of lost..could you please start with definitions? what is shadow work?

  • razedazzle X Post author

    Luv what you said about being authentic n not just β€œairy and flowy” bc the age of Aquarius is about your spirit, man and society however Aquarius is also no bullshit lol peaceful but knows when to enact that raw, non-conforming truthful energy

  • Belle Post author

    Bullseye! Thank you sooooo much. You brought to mind a song from my younger years. Garden Party by Ricky Nelson. Enjoy and have a blessed day!

  • Julia Rossetti Post author

    Thank you so much Aaron!! Your videos are getting more & more helpful everyday!! πŸ™βœ¨πŸ’› You have such an amazing way of delivering information, that it doesn’t then feel like a chore to do, but something that sinks in over time & organically becomes part of how I think & feel.

  • Bobby B Post author

    For some reason it’s hard to stick with the meditation consistently. I’m struggling with a variety of mental health issues and religious induced paranoia. Any advice?

  • Name Post author

    I’m a woman who is naturally more feminine but is also a people pleaser because of my upbringing…. how do I fix that

  • TeiubescDM Post author

    Well it made me realize I could say the same about my childhood I grew up with dominating angry women and soft indecisive men and I was trying to be opposite of these women. But I noticed every time I am too nice to people I have kind of punishment which tells me I should think about myself more. Anyway I think childhood is for most people very hard because you are basically out of any control of the shit happening.

  • Bernadette Turkenburg Post author

    Seriousness is a disease,Aaron.I feel like your auntie from abroad,want to support and guide you,is that allright?

  • Yesha Zion Post author

    THIS IS one of Your best Teachings…

  • *Ang* Post author

    I used to be a fixer… after lots of pain and suffering I decided no more. I come first. Being myself and my comfort comes before anything. Life got better lol

  • Dope Art Post author

    I wonder why the first thing I thought when you complained about the landscaper being late was you should be grateful you have a landscaper. It irritated me so its showing me something about my shadow πŸ˜‰ Also, great advice about looking at your parents to see where some of your beliefs came from πŸ™‚

  • Vincisomething Post author

    I realized there is something about my shadow that sometimes and kind of expects people to say no when I ask for things, so I argue for it as if they said no and didn't give me a chance.

    Update: did a reading on myself. I don't trust myself well enough because I have this deep-rooted belief that what I think is naive or inferior to other people. I think it's because when I was told no as something, it was also a form of criticism or I was too stupid or naive to consider why it wouldn't work. I just assume other people know more than me and I know nothing. However, it's to the point where the reading encouraged me to look to myself for answers rather than blindly trusting others even if it looks like they have everything.

  • Pink Star Post author

    Really enjoyed and resonate with it very much…I a people pleaser- and become very soft too soft – afraid to speak up now- didn’t use to be until meditating and spiritual beliefs-
    I’m female Aries β™ˆοΈ and very much a leader but can’t balance out-

  • Black Mass Post author

    It's amazing how you shifted from advertising your channel to just letting people find it. It's really amazing to see

  • Pepe Magga Post author

    Thank you so much for this. This was super helpful. I think I would need professional help to uncover my shadow self

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  • As Pam's World Turns - An Awakening Post author

    I've always been a people pleaser and a fixer… It doesn't work. Growing up in my home I always felt an irritation from my mother. Whether it be my father coming home, her daily life, and of course me. I feel it to this day. When I think of my children I have 2 things come up.. How much I truly love them and want to be with them. Then there's that underlying irritation. I so want to ride myself of this. It's tiring and sad.

    I thought that with the passing of my mother it would leave my life… It hasn't. I think that's the main part of the reason that all my relationships I keep at a distance. With writing this I have found that the distance thing doesn't work. It's still with me where ever I go.


  • mark builder Post author

    you tube money must be good change.

  • Kate Nagaitis Post author

    I really liked this video. I appreciate your openness and authenticity. I really connect with what you said. For me, from my 'traumatic' childhood, it's hard to bring the shadow to light without over analysis or blame involved. But I'm being patient and aware with myself and slowly allowing what needs to come to light. Thank you

  • ultimategohan56 Post author

    OMG! That moment when you recognize an aspect of your behavior in someone else and you're like :O what!!!!

  • Casey Burnet Post author

    I was under the impression your shadow was not just character flaws but something worse…like a brutal side of yourself. I suppose there's more than one way to view it.

  • Damaysi Vazquez Post author

    I love this, and the universe has been telling me (loudly), to do this shadow work.

  • seraj alrachwani Post author

    The most amazing video you have made so far. Be yourself! Thank you!!

  • Djinn Magik Post author

    R U A Taurus? Taurus takes better care of others then they do themselves. Taurus usually are land loverz as well πŸ’–πŸŽ¨πŸŽΆ LoVe2PaintSound

  • Djinn Magik Post author

    I enjoyed this video. Made sense to me. I like ur intensity 😁 point understood

  • Cleopatra TROPHY WIFE Post author

    02:50 May be I am not on time ! That’s why I attract those who r not on time

    04:48 What is ur relationship with ur parents ? Those r the way we relate to ourself and others

    Solution: Bring the shadow into light πŸ’‘ and face it and fix it.

  • Dennis Britten Post author

    Synchronicity when you said you’re waiting LOL

  • Balo Blackhorse Post author

    Great vid

  • chocolateress Post author

    Thanks so much for this video Aaron. Content + the energy you put this message forward with ('masculine frame', food for thought). My main takeaway: you always attract a reflection of your vibration and (a huge) part of your vibration is unconscious. I kind of knew that, but the way you said it, made it click for me. Oh, and kudos for just saying stuff the way you feel like saying it: with an accent, funny intonation, whichever way. Makes me smile every time. Definitely shows you being at peace with yourself. Namaste my friend!

  • Riidher Post author

    OMG Aaron, I'm just like you. I even have the same background with the controlling stepmother and the father who was never there. My father was a policeman. And I'm a fixer too and boundaries is what I have been struggling with. Thanks for baring your soul, it shows me that we all have our problems and people are not so different from each other

  • Life of Dreams Post author

    Shadow work is such deeply transformative work and a very important piece to the awakening process/spiritual journey. Once I learned and started implementing shadow work I was able to bring more awareness to my reactions in life. It literally changed my life!

    I understood the law of attraction before I learned shadow work, but didn't come full circle with my spiritual knowledge until I implemented it into my life. Now I not only use shadow work daily to move through the emotions that arise, but I teach others to do the same. Can't say enough good things about the process.

  • CAPRICORN WOLF Post author

    Always wanted to know what this is.

  • Rebecca Hughes Post author

    I got you

  • Joshua T. Post author

    Humility before God is the pinnacle of wisdom. The wisdom of the world amounts to nothing. Jesus Christ is the Way the Truth and the Life… God bless.

  • Sue Walters Post author

    I had the same kind of mother and I did the same way pleasing others but I'm working on me so I can be a happy me it feels great but this video will help me to be the real me even more thank you πŸ˜€

  • Ocean of Sounds Post author

    You're awesome Aaron! Thank you for all your amazing insights❀

  • Milly Ortiz Post author

    I accidentally skipped a video and ended up here. The universe knew I needed and Aaron refresher! Thank you!

  • islandgirl 916 Post author

    Thank you for this video….perfect timing πŸ™πŸ»πŸ’›πŸ’›πŸ’›omg my life story too that’s how I am a people pleaser and I always want people to be happy and I am a blunt person too. Thank you thank you

  • mike russo Post author

    i love you man.

  • Tatiana Rac Post author

    Shadow work has revealed the most fascinating depths of my soul, unravelled decades of various traumas, and open my heart to healing the inner child and fully integrating the heart-mind-body.
    Shadow … I embrace you and no longer run from you… putting a spotlight on my triggers / pains have been my greatest teacher. It led me to the deepest spiritual path I have yet to imagine.

  • Christine Ceralde Post author

    Your step mom had wounded masculine energy. I hope shes put them to the light an is healing from them. Because yes we are all one and it affects all of us in ways ✨

  • Nicolas Ruiz Post author

    So in other words be a friendly alpha male, pretty true to be honest wouldn't you all agree

  • Nicolas Ruiz Post author

    Imagine this reality, that the universe love's us because when we realize this we don seek for validation because we are our own validation because when we are our own source of validation the femininity and masculinity synchronizes and balance emerges.

  • Kathy B Post author

    The subconscious is not a shadow, can't decide to rename it sorry. The path to spiritual awareness is self awareness and you need to work on ego, one of the most important aspects of subconscious behaviour. As long as you are trying to accomplish fame and recognision you are working through ego. Be honest with yourself. I wish you joy in your life. πŸ’–

  • COLIN TOSH Post author

    I love your cheek

  • Octavia Jones medina Post author

    Sounds like your ex step mom is a narcissist

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  • Lucie Ledoux Post author

    Omg I am so like you! I learned ( no ) at 45 …my both parents were in the army ! How do I let go of all that shit! So much abuse! I don't want to take care of everyone .I want to make me happy!

  • Heather Mozo Post author

    These vids are great. Youve helped me a lot. Thank you.

  • Shaeda Esau Post author

    I'm taking my hat off for you Aron. Tips certainly taken note off.thank you
    Much LOVE PEACE and happiness 😊❀✌

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  • KlaireeBerry Uncensored Post author

    Good call

  • Avion Orr Post author

    Thank you!!!

  • Apoorva T Post author

    Omg Aaron,i so needed this video..this has been running on my mind,i have been overgiving esp to a bestie.of mine,mostly without boundaries.a people-pleaser,can never say no to anyone.πŸ˜‘never giving permission to myself.

  • Apoorva T Post author

    Grateful for this video, opening up our consciousness in myriad ways.πŸ™

  • Kryptic King Post author

    How can I understand who I am and what I need? I don’t have parent relations I’ve only had a twin brother to relate

  • Icrat Lynn Post author

    aaron you always make videos that touch my sitations diractly

  • Jakob Schwab Post author

    Thank you again!πŸ™ to those of your releasing outdated beliefs, be proud of yourself.. not everyone has the courage to do soπŸ”₯πŸ™πŸ•Š

  • Mixer forever Post author

    I feel like u are talking about my life literally!

  • Saskia Del Rey Post author

    If your daddy was a nice guy, why did he let your step mom abuse you. Sounds not so nice. If your mom was nice she would search for contact, no matter what.

    Maybe I sound bitter because my mom didn't care when her husband abused me. When I hear story's similar to mine I automatically close my heart and get stubborn about my opinion.

  • Tony .Sewell Post author

    Thank you, Aaron. I listen to you every day. if you are going to take the time and teach us then I am going to show up. My partner for the first time sat down with me in our living room while I was watching you and I was interested in how he was going to respond. He asked who you were and then he settled back in and listened. After you ended I thought for sure he would ask if we could change it as I watch you on or large screen t.v. Instead, as I reached for the remote, he stops me and says, NO, I want to watch his next one. Inside I knew I was watching someone waking up as he asked me to write down your name and YouTube channel. We've been together 21 years and this was the first time he showed any interest. Thank you. You are waking people up all over. Your work is not in vain and now I have a viewing partner!
    Much love and admiration!

  • Kharlla Dayz Post author

    Gracias ^ ^

  • SkoolieCat Adventure Post author

    I personally love this one. One of my masks is of a comedian, to distract my family from picking on me. It's been coming off this year and I'm not as funny anymore and I deal with the abuse directly now and have set boundaries.

  • c j Post author

    Since when did character flaws have anything to do with the shadow self? The shadow self exists but it is not this

  • Porsha Land Post author

    Damnn, this tripped me out! Same shadows, step parent, and buying stuff.. Dammnn that blew my mind

  • Kitty Walker Post author

    Aaron, I have watched your videos off and on for a couple years. This is probably the MOST relatable and helpful and healing video for me that I watched of yours. I have similar threads through my background. Thank you. Btw, you were always a nice looking man, but are becoming downright hot lately lol. Guess it’s that passion and masculine energy you spoke about πŸ˜˜πŸ‘β€οΈ

  • You Create Your Reality Post author

    Very insightful! We all got still much to learn, I love it. πŸ™‚

  • Linda Young Post author

    Love your stuff. I was a people pleaser and fixer too.

  • Psychic Storm Post author

    This is right where I am, Aaron. Gratitude for this video. No coincidence I found this.

  • Bridgett Benson Post author

    Synchronicities!!! I called upon my shadow self earlier today before meditating. Thank you beautiful soul. Sending you loving energy.

  • Elle Sweet Post author

    Yeah and it's a two-way street because when you feel your passion and your authentic self Aaron u-command whoever's watching well I can only speak for myself to really tune in and listen because it comes across in every single way in tone of voice in just all the ways that you can command attention from somebody to believe you because you feel something about what you're saying and it it's an energy right we're all Just Energy and so yeah it's it's an extremely powerful whatever I don't know I can't I can't really think of but it's like tractor being when you're like that the other person reciprocates speaking for myself on video so yeah cool you're awesome I'm learning thank you namaste lalalalala

  • Pallavi RC Post author

    Hahah my shadow is about stubbornness probably almost to a detriment sometimes where I can become borderline obsessive. It irritates me when people are unchanging and stubborn and are like my way or the highway…. Guess I need to loosen up a bit and be less obsessed and one track minded

  • Pallavi RC Post author

    Amazing video, love the personal experiences you’ve shared. I had a nightmare about a shadowy figure few nights ago and since then I’ve been interested in shadow work and integrating it. Another very interesting point I noticed was that people pleasing can occur with empaths … same thing about boundaries

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