Can I file for divorce without involving a divorce lawyer?

Can I file for divorce without involving a divorce lawyer?

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My name is Jill Coil, and I own Coil Law in
Salt Lake City, Utah, or Sandy, Utah to be more specific. And we do family law, specialize in domestic
litigation, divorces, modifications. We also do personal injury and some criminal
law. Top three things that people should know in
a divorce, I think, really come down to these three things, and I’ve thought about them
to make sure you as a consumer, somebody looking to get divorced, has the simplest but most
important things that you could follow. And one of those is, make sure you find the
right divorce attorney. I think it’s really important to make sure
that you do your research. You need to make sure that you read their
reviews. That’s very, very important. Make sure you go to Google, also websites
like Avvo.com will have their reviews, as well. I also think it’s really important to interview
a few attorneys, so make sure you schedule consultations with them, and you go and you
actually talk to them. And I always warn, like, a free consultation
might sound great at the beginning, but you get what you pay for. So, if you want somebody to actually get a
feel of what they’re going to do for you on your case, don’t be afraid of those attorneys
that are charging you for a consultation, because they clearly are doing it for a reason,
because they don’t want to waste your time just as you don’t want to waste their time. So, make sure that you interview a few attorneys,
and go with the person that really feels good, and that you have good confidence about. The second thing I think is really important
when you’re going through a divorce, is I always say, if you have nothing nice to say,
don’t email, text, or say it. And what that means is, just like, when you’re
going through a divorce, obviously things are heated. You’re struggling with your spouse, or soon
to be ex-spouse, and so people tend to let their emotions be worn on a sleeve. And I’m telling you, those emails, those texts,
those words are going to be used against you in court. It’s not going to help anybody. So I always
say, just keep your mouth shut, and for sure keep it off of social media, text messages,
emails, because those can be used against you in court. So, the best thing you can do is just play
nice. Be the bigger person. Let them be the one that berates you on a
text message, and you don’t say anything in return. That’s going to be really helpful for the
court when determining who is willing to co-parent, or who’s willing to be more reasonable in
a divorce to help you get through that. The third thing that I thought is really important
when going through a divorce is invest in your divorces as if you would invest in yourself
or invest in your future. What I mean by that is, don’t get this mantra
that if I don’t hire an attorney, I’ll keep it simple, I’ll try to keep peace with my
spouse, and therefore we’ll try to creatively come up with our own divorce decree. In my practice, I do more fixing of bad pro
se decrees, meaning somebody that did it themselves than I actually do original divorces. And I think it’s because people get into this
idea that, oh, we’re on good terms right now, we’ll just right our terms down, and we’ll
just keep the peace. And what they don’t realize is that you’re
not thinking of anything in the future, you’re not realizing that a good divorce attorney
is there not only to help you through the divorce, but to protect yourself and your
future. And so, by investing in your divorce, hiring
a good attorney, I know it’s money that a lot of people don’t feel like they have, but
it’s like investing in your future to be able to continue to grow, be successful in whatever
you do. And a couple examples to that is retirement,
or future income. That’s all stuff that you’re going to be able
to turn around and invest in yourself. But if you don’t get a good divorce attorney
that’s going to help you through that to make sure that it’s done fairly, done correctly,
you’re going to come back to me in three years to ask to fix it, because you realized that
it wasn’t fair. Or, “oh my gosh, I’m stuck in this rut, I can’t get free from my spouse,”
or something like that, which is going to cost you a lot more money. So, I always say the investment now is so
important. You will save so much more money by hiring
an attorney to get you through it so that you make sure you do it right the first time. Hiring an attorney does not mean it’s going
to become overly litigious, meaning you’re going to court, and you’re going to spend
thousands, and thousands, and thousands of dollars. In fact, getting an attorney involved can
really probably save you thousands in the long run. And find that attorney that’s not looking
to just take your case because they think, “oh, I can make a buck off of you.” Find the attorney that specializes in your
area, that is good at what they do, and can problem solve and get this resolved quickly,
fairly, and as … I guess to protect you as best as possible.

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